Love Cafe Q&A

My friend applied as an officer in a club that I am the chairman of. I thought she was decently qualified, but my co-chair said that promoting her to an officer position might cause drama in the club because it seems like we’re playing favoritism (which we kind of did slightly throughout the year.) We picked a different applicant. She was a little upset but she got over it. Fast forward 4 months, it accidentally slipped out that the reason she wasn’t picked as an officer was because we didn’t want to hurt the rep of the club. Now she’s really upset with me and she won't talk to me. She’s acting up in the club and the other officers are talking about kicking her out. I don't know how to save our friendship.

So, to start with, I’m going to be using the term sexual debut to refer to the concept of virginity, as the term “virginity” tends to be attached to some heteronormative connotations. However, go ahead and call it whatever you feel comfortable calling it, but I prefer to use the term sexual debut because I feel that virginity is attached directly to the act of having penetrative sex, while I prefer to keep the concept of sex open-ended, and open to interpretation.

Being a transfer student sucks. It’s almost the end of my first semester and I don’t feel like I have made very much progress socially (or academically). Any tips?

My boyfriend and I went to a party last week. We were a bit drunk and a mutual friend asked him who he thought the prettiest girl in the room was. He was supposed to say it was me. But then he pointed at this random girl at this party and just smiled. I’m not usually the jealous type and I tried to laugh it off. When I got home, I cried the whole night. I’m not sure why it’s bothering me so much. He apologized to me the next day, explaining how drunk he was. And it’s understandable, perfectly understandable. Yet, the feeling isn’t going away. Why?