Common issues for undergraduate students
Parental support is important but it can also be helpful for students to talk to a professional counselor who is trained in college development. Counseling and Psychological services can be helpful in supporting students as they navigate these changes.
At times, students can become overwhelmed by the demands. Sometimes the strategies they use to deal with stress get them in trouble, such as the use of alcohol and drugs. Counseling can be helpful to support students during times of stress and to teach them new strategies for managing stress now and in the future.
|Transition to college||
College is a time of social, emotional, and intellectual growth. New undergraduates face a number of challenges as they adjust to being at Berkeley. Some of the stressors might include:
|Mental health issues||Many students enter UC Berkeley with previous treatment for mental health concerns such as depression and anxiety. CPS is a good resource for helping students new to the area get established with mental health care providers in the East Bay area. It is also common for mental health concerns to emerge during the early 20’s when students are in their college years.|
CPS aims to provide access for these students, so that we can assess their needs and connect them with appropriate treatment.
How can I tell if my son or daughter is distressed?
At one time or another, everyone feels upset. However, when some of the following are present, your son or daughter is probably in distress:
- Bizarre behavior or speech.
- Comments in a student's letters or emails home that arouse concern.
- Extreme dependency on family, including exceptionally long/distressing phone calls or visits home.
- Nervousness, agitation, irritability, aggressiveness, non-stop talking.
- Noticeable decline in quality of school performance.
- Marked change in personal hygiene.
- Prolonged appearance of depression (e.g., sad expression, apathy, tearfulness, distractibility).
Encouraging your student to seek help
Students often want to be independent and see help-seeking as a weakness. What they don’t understand is that using campus resources is normal at UC Berkeley and that using these resources is a sign of strength and resiliency. While entering counseling is a personal choice; it may be helpful for you to encourage your student to speak with a counselor about his or her concerns. The following guidance may help a student who is unsure whether they wish to seek counseling or apprehensive about seeking help:
Inform your daughter/son that information shared during counseling is confidential to the extent permitted by state law and will not be disclosed without written permission.
Reduce the stigma associated with counseling. Tell your daughter/son that our counseling services are regularly used by many students for a variety of concerns and that utilizing counseling services reflects good use of one’s resources. Just as it is common to visit a doctor when one has a medical problem, there should be no shame in meeting with a counselor to discuss a personal issue or concern.
Remind your daughter/son that she or he can meet with a counselor for one session without committing to ongoing counseling.
If your son/daughter is daunted by coming to the health services, suggest that he/she consider visiting one of the satellite offices. Counselors are available in the Residences Halls, the Cesar Chavez Student Center, International House and at a variety of other locations.
Refer you daughter/son to this website so that she/he can learn more about the services offered and use the mental health self-assessment tools online. The screenings are free, anonymous, and confidential and will help your daughter or son determine if professional counseling is right for them.
Understanding counseling at UC Berkeley
- Counseling and Psychological Services (CPS ) is staffed by professional counselors who provide assessment, crisis intervention and brief counseling (individual and group). CPS counselors help students with personal, social, academic and career concerns.
- All registered students are eligible for services, regardless of their insurance plan.
- Students can access services by calling 510-642-9494 or walking in (3rd floor of the Tang Center) to set up an appointment. For urgent concerns, students can be seen on a drop-in basis during 10am- 5PM Mon- Friday.
- More detailed information about all the services we offer can be found on our website. For more information about CPS, please visit "About Us".
- Community Referrals: Many students require ongoing support that is more specialized, intensive, or extensive than is available on campus. In general, ongoing mental health care is a private health care responsibility, not a service provided by the university. For students who need off-campus care, a CPS clinician can work with them to locate private care that is maximally accessible, appropriate, and affordable with their health care plan.
Consult with a CPS counselor
Launching a son or daughter into the college years is a complicated process for parents. As with every life transition, parents want to do what is best for their children. Parents often become concerned about their college student’s emotional functioning. CPS counselors are available to consult with parents who have questions or concerns about their UC Berkeley son or daughter. Questions might include:
- Is this a normal, developmental process for a college student?
- How might the parent best support the student?
- How might the parent convince the student to seek professional help?
- If there is a basis for treating the student’s condition as an “emergency,” what steps should be taken?
How to consult with a CPS counselor:
If you are concerned about your son/daughter and are unsure what to do, please call CPS to consult with a counselor (510) 642-9494 Monday–Friday, 8am–5pm.
If you believe there is imminent danger, immediately call the police.
Confidentiality of counseling
The student’s assurance of privacy is one of the conditions that makes counseling effective. CPS is prohibited by law from disclosing anything about counseling without explicit written permission from the student. We are not even free to share with you whether your student has sought counseling, as even that information is protected by state law.
If you call for consultation, the counselor’s assistance will be based on the description you provide, and on our extensive experience working with college students’ emotional development. Our thoughts will NOT be based on information we have about your specific student.
This may feel frustrating to you when you are reaching out in concern for your daughter or son. If you know that your son or daughter has seen one of our counselors s and if you think it is important to talk to that counselor, PLEASE ASK YOUR SON/DAUGHTER TO SIGN A RELEASE OF INFORMATION AT THE COUNSELING CENTER, which then allows us discuss your student’s care.
If you have worrisome information that we may not have, such as someone revealing to you that your son or daughter has made a suicide attempt, please call us and give us that information. In that unusual circumstance the priority is to protect the student, and the family’s involvement is essential.
This series of videos addresses common issues for parents in the transition to students beginning college : managing money, setting expectations, communication with your student
Below is a list of books geared to parenting college students . These books focus on your student’s transition as well as the impact on parents’ lives.
Almost Grown: Launching Your Child from High School to College by Patricia Pasick
College of the Overwhelmed: The Campus Mental Health Crisis and What to Do About It by Richard Kadison
Don’t Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money by Helen E. Johnson and Christine Schelhas-Miller
Empty Nest ... Full Heart: The Journey from Home to College by Andrea Van Steenhouse
The Launching Years: Strategies for Parenting from Senior to College Life by Laura Kastner, Jennifer Fugett Wyatt
Letting Go: A Parents' Guide to Understanding the College Years, Third Edition by Karen Levin Coburn (Author), Madge Lawrence Treeger
When Kids Go to College: A Parent's Guide to Changing Relationships by Barbara M. Newman , Philip R. Newman
When Your Kid Goes to College; A Parent's Survival Guide by Carol Barkin
You're On Your Own (But I'm Here if You Need Me) : Mentoring Your Child During the College Years
by Marjorie Savage
Transition to College: Separation and Change for Parents and Students by Robin F. Goodman, Ph.D., New York University Child Study Center
Transition to College Stresses Parents and Kids by Emily Hagedorn / The Detroit News
How to Survive and Thrive in an Empty Nest: Reclaiming your Life when Your Children have Grown by Jeanette Lauer et al
She's Leaving Home: Letting Go as a Daughter Goes to College by Connie Jones
The Empty Nest: When Children Leave Home by Shelley Bovey
When You're Facing the Empty Nest: Avoiding Midlife Meltdown When Your Child Leaves Home by Mary Ann Froehlich