Love Cafe Q&A

Thinking about Transferring

March 24, 2017
I’m homesick. My family, friends, dog, and support system are in SoCal so I’ve been feeling lonely since coming to Cal. I have made a few friends but no one that I feel connected to. I’m about to end my first year but seriously thinking about transferring to a school closer to home. I would love to graduate from Cal but don’t know if it’s worth the risk of loneliness or my mental health for the next 3 years. What should I do?

Does he only likes me for sex?

April 16, 2016
I’ve been dating a guy who is nice to me but I think he just wants sex. It’s confusing because I’ve dated other guys who only want physical and will make that clear, but this guy is still nice to me. How can I determine if he’s only in it for the physical?

Q&A: Socializing at Berkeley

August 27, 2014
I’m a shy guy. How do I make friends at UC Berkeley?

Relationship Q&A: Spring 2013

January 2, 2014
I’m an incoming freshman and I am really scared of the heavy workload and challenging classes. I came from a high school that did not have many resources and did not receive the best education. I am worried that I cannot compare to other students who had the privilege to go to a good school and have additional academic support. Do you have any advice on what I can do or how to change this mentality?

Is He Interested In Me?

March 2, 2018
I like this guy but I think that he's gay. What do I do?

Heartbroken ex-boyfriend

July 5, 2014
I’ve broken up with my long-term boyfriend recently, but we can’t stop talking since the breakup. I made it clear to him that I just wanted a casual/physical relationship (no labels), nothing serious. He was completely fine with it when we agreed. While casually seeing him, I was also fooling around with other guys. When I told him about it, he seemed heartbroken. I don’t want to hurt his feelings but I also understand that we agreed on having just a casual relationship. Any suggestions?

We will go long-term?

July 13, 2014
My boyfriend and I have been officially dating for almost a year. He goes away for 3 weeks to go on vacation with his family to China. When I saw him right when he came back, I looked through pictures of their trip and his mom told me, “half of China knows who you are because he told everyone that he had a girlfriend who was from Hong Kong.” I feel really flattered and proud to be his girlfriend. Should I take that as a signal that our relationship will go long-term?

Having trouble asking someone out

July 18, 2014
I’m shy and I’m having trouble asking people out. What advice can you give me to ask this cute guy out I like?

Should I tell my parents I have a boyfriend

August 19, 2014
I've recently started seeing a guy (this is the first relationship I've ever been in), and I was wondering: when (or even if) should I tell my parents about him? I'm afraid they might not approve of him, or they might start asking uncomfortable questions. But at the same time, I don't want to be keeping things from them; this relationship is something I'm excited and happy about.

Best friend and I like the same guy

August 20, 2014
One of my best friends and I like the same guy. What should we do?