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My boyfriend thinks random girls are prettier than me

August 22, 2014
My boyfriend and I went to a party last week. We were a bit drunk and a mutual friend asked him who he thought the prettiest girl in the room was. Obviously, he was supposed to say me. But then he pointed at this random girl at this party and just smiled. I’m not usually the jealous type and I tried to laugh it off. When I got home, I cried the whole night. I’m not sure why it’s bothering me so much. He apologized to me the next day, explaining how drunk he was. And it’s understandable, perfectly understandable. Yet, the feeling isn’t going away. Why?

How do my boyfriend and I figure out an acceptable level of PDA?

August 22, 2014
How do my boyfriend and I figure out an acceptable level of PDA? Initially, we had both agreed to not hold hands in public, but recently I'm getting the impression that he wants me to hold his hand/put my arm through his. I don't really want to, though; how do I tell him that I don't like any PDA at all without hurting his feelings?

I'm worried that things might be getting stagnant with my boyfriend

April 8, 2014
I'm worried that things might be getting stagnant with my boyfriend. I'm really busy with class and he's working, so when we do hang out we don't have much time to go out or anything. I don't want our relationship to becoming "boring" but I also don't want to get behind in my classes. What should I do?

Roommate's boyfriend has become an extra roommate

March 31, 2014
My roommate’s boyfriend is like always over at our place. It’s a bit frustrating; because I told her again and again I don’t feel comfortable with her boyfriend sleeping over. Our place is really cramped, and a third person is really really really bothersome. I guess she thought a loophole would be to sneak him in after I fell asleep (which is arguably one of the stupidest loopholes I have ever encountered.) Our water and electricity bill definitely got higher after he started coming over. When I brought this up to them, he offered to pay for a third. At first I thought OKAY, because that meant less bills. But I guess we had a miscommunication, and now her boyfriend feels like he has more of a right to stay over. But he DOES NOOOTTTTTT.

What does drunk friend’s kiss and “I Love You” mean?

February 24, 2014
Last week, my friend called me and she was incredibly drunk, so I rushed out to take care of her. I let her stay over because she looked like she couldn’t even walk straight. I was planning to let her stay in my bed while I slept on the couch, but she would start whining and crying. She asked me to stay with her, so I sat on the bed. Then she kissed me and told me she loved me. Immediately afterwards, she fell asleep. I’m not sure what happened, but when I asked her if she remembered anything from last night, and she said she didn’t remember. What just happened?

Turning down a friend for a club officer position

March 3, 2014
My friend applied as an officer in a club that I am a chairmen for. I thought she was decently qualified, but my co-chair said that promoting her to an officer position might cause drama in the club because it seems like we’re playing favoritism (which we kinda did slightly throughout the year.) We picked a different applicant. She was a little upset but she got over it. Fast forward 4 months, it accidentally slipped out that the reason she wasn’t picked as an officer was because we didn’t want to hurt the rep of the club. Now she’s really upset with me and she wont talk to me. She’s acting up in the club and the other officers are talking about kicking her out. I dont know how to save our friendship.

Money is tight to go out right now

February 9, 2014
Money is tight right now and I’m trying to be as careful with spending as possible. My friends want to go out for lunch/dinner with me and I don’t know how to tell them that I can’t afford to because going out with a couple people per week will add up. I don’t want to turn them down, because they have been asking me and want to see how I am doing. Help!

Relationship Q&A: Winter 2013

August 1, 2014
My boyfriend and I have our anniversary coming up tomorrow, but we won't be able to see each other and we can't skype or anything. I still want to do something special for the day though, what do I do?

How can I cope with this breakup?

August 20, 2014
I am currently going through a break-up and it hurts so much. The relationship that I had was extremely confusing. We were on and off for about half a year! He was my best friend before we had started talking. We ended our relationship on good terms but many times I miss him terribly and become quite depressed. I understand why we had to break up but its hurts to let our memories go.

I'm in my first ever relationship - should I tell my parents?

August 19, 2014
I've recently started seeing a guy (this is the first relationship I've ever been in), and I was wondering: when (or even if) should I tell my parents about him? I'm afraid they might not approve of him, or they might start asking uncomfortable questions. But at the same time I don't want to be keeping things from them; this relationship is something I'm really excited and happy about.