How do I make a move on "cafe guy?"

August 13, 2014

There is a charming guy at a cafe that I go to, I've seen him several times. I don't know how to start a conversation! And a lot of times, he has a few other people with him. 


Find a small way to start up a conversation! It can be as simple as asking what the wifi password is, for a good drink recommendation, or even complimenting something he’s wearing. Don’t be nervous! –Emily 

Strut with confidence and shake what your mama gave ya! Be friendly by asking him his name or asking about his favorite drink at the cafe. After a few conversations, you’ll feel comfortable and he might even ask for your name! Just don’t forget to keep your chin up, strut with confidence, and shake that sexy thing that your mama gave ya! Mama Luv is here to help. - Mama Luv

That is adorable! I think we café lovers have all experienced a café crush at one point or another. I think the best way to start a conversation is to find something at the present to talk about. For example, if he’s reading a book, ask him about it and then introduce yourself. Then maybe, eventually, the two of you can sit together and get to know each other more. Best of luck. –Jami

If you’re uncomfortable with approaching him while he’s sitting with his friends, see if you can catch him another time on his own and take advantage of that rare opportunity by casually “passing by” and asking him what drink/food he’s having. If he reciprocates your friendliness, don’t be afraid to ask if he’s a regular since you recognize him from previous visits, and maybe even chat about their drinks or something. You don’t have to become friends instantaneously but at least you’re acquaintances now and it’ll be easier for you to greet or chat with him when you see him again, even if he’s with his friends. Be patient and make more and longer conversations with him as time progresses so you can become friends and maybe even more. –Amanda