Love Cafe Q&A

Where can I exercise at Berkeley?

August 23, 2014
Interested in starting a workout routine? Go to the Recreational Sports Facility (RSF) located at 2301 Bancroft Way. Membership gets you access to all the sports facilities, equipment, and classes. It is awesome!

RRR Week Reminders

July 23, 2014
It’s Reading/Review/Recitation (RRR) Week and we’re adding a 4th “R” for relaxation. It's important to focus on studying but don't forget to take breaks. Well-timed breaks will help you stay healthy so you can concentrate and learn more easily when you do hit the books. How do you recharge and refresh? Below are some suggested activities. Have a great RRR+R week!

He treats me like crap when we’re apart

July 31, 2014
I’m dating a guy who constantly treats me like crap when we’re apart, but when we’re together, it’s 180. Why is he acting like this? How do I change his behavior?

Is it gay if its just one time?

July 16, 2014
Is it gay if its just one time?

Long distance relationships

August 25, 2014
My boyfriend is graduating from Berkeley and will be moving. We talked about this and we are both willing to pursue a long-distance relationship. What are some strategies we can utilize for maintaining a healthy long-distance relationship?

Struggling in my math class

July 14, 2014
I've been struggling so much in my math class. I've been to my GSI's office hours, got tutoring from friends, went to tutoring at the EECS honor society, and everything! I am still struggling and I'm afraid I might fail the class because I don't understand what's going on. Every day I walk out of class either tired or in tears.

How do I get him to stop calling me?

July 27, 2014
This is an uncomfortable situation. I think the best thing to do is to be very explicit that you do NOT want to be contacted anymore. Don’t sugarcoat anything! Let him know upfront that you are not interested and that you would like him to stop calling. If this persists to the point of making you feel unsafe or uncomfortable, you should talk to the police. –Guest Barista Emily

Help! I'm in a love triangle

August 17, 2014
After getting over Guy A a few months ago, I started having feelings for Guy B. I told B my feelings for him only to find out that A and B have a semicasual relationship going on right now.

I feel hurt especially knowing that B would rather have a friends-with-benefits relationship with A than have a genuine romantic relationship with me. Have any advice on how to get over this? They are both good friends and I don't want to lose my friendship with them, but it's honestly hard to see them now.

You sound like a great person: sensitive and communicative–qualities that will serve you...

Roommate challenges

August 24, 2014
It is well into the second semester, and as my roommate and I are becoming more comfortable with each other, I am starting to notice things about her that never bothered me before. To be honest, sometimes I become so irritated that it takes all my energy to not blow up at her. What should I do?

How do I face my conservative family?

April 29, 2016
I shaved the sides of my hair this semester. I’m a girl and am nervous about my conservative family and community because I don’t know how they will react. I can always buy a wig but want to practice being more confident while sporting my new do. Any advice for helping me prepare to handle the inevitable criticism? I love my family but know that we hold very different views. Is there any way to reach a middle ground?