Love Cafe

How do I avoid the "friend zone?"

July 17, 2014
Is there a window of opportunity to ask a girl on a date before they put you in the friend zone? I’ve never actually been on a date with a girl before, because I want to be friends/talk to them for a while to get to know them a little bit before working up the courage to ask them out. However, they usually end up saying they only think of me as a friend when I ask them eventually. Am I approaching this the right way or should I ask them out before we establish too much of a connection or what?

Sometimes I cry after sex. Is this normal?

July 15, 2014

Sometimes I cry after sex. Is this normal?


I have talked to people who cry after sex; some because they feel so emotionally happy and overwhelmed after sex and/or orgasm and the feelings get expressed in tears. A few have cried because they felt guilty about being sexually active.

You are definitely not alone in crying after sex.

I've been struggling so much in my math class

July 14, 2014
I've been struggling so much in my math class. I've been to my GSI's office hours, got tutoring from friends, went to tutoring at the EECS honor society and everything! I am still struggling and I'm afraid I might fail the class because I really don't understand what's going on. Everyday I walk out of class either tired or in tears..

I've been struggling so much in my math class

July 14, 2014
I've been struggling so much in my math class. I've been to my GSI's office hours, got tutoring from friends, went to tutoring at the EECS honor society and everything! I am still struggling and I'm afraid I might fail the class because I really don't understand what's going on. Everyday I walk out of class either tired or in tears..

Is this considered a long-term relationship?

July 13, 2014
My boyfriend and I have been officially dating for almost a year. He goes away for 3 weeks to go on vacation with his family to China. When I saw him right when he came back, I looked through pictures of their trip and his mom told me, “half of China knows who you are because he told everyone that he had a girlfriend who was from Hong Kong.” I feel really flattered and proud to be his girlfriend. Should I take that as a signal that our relationship will go long-term?

Annoying roommate

July 10, 2014
I am extremely annoyed with my roommate. I don’t want to hurt her feelings by telling her all the things I’m annoyed about but I also can’t imagine continuing to live like this. What should I do?

I cheated on my boyfriend

July 8, 2014
I cheated on my boyfriend of a couple of years over the summer. It wasn’t intentional but it happened, and I finally told him recently, because I figured if I really cared about him, I owe him the truth and should let him decide where to take things from here. But I feel so alone without him, because he was my best friend. Did I do the right thing? Should I just have not told him and kept going?

Welcome, Cal Freshmen! Some timeless advice

July 7, 2014
Our friend Tiff is a Cal sophomore, and she has these tips for you after having navigated her first year on campus.