Love Cafe Q&A

Relationship or single-life?

November 9, 2017
I've been dating someone for the first time. It's serious enough that I can envision staying with them for a long time. On the other hand, I worry that in the future I may regret not dating more people in college and experimenting to see what I truly want from a relationship. How do I reconcile my happiness with my current relationship with my doubt?

I have a crush on my GSI

July 22, 2014
The one in question is at least five years older than me and a Ph.D. candidate in a field I'm VERY interested in, but I'm just a lowly undergrad struggling in this GSI's class. I understand (and agree) that taking any action while the student-teacher relationship is going on is unprofessional and bound to lead to sticky situations, but is there anything I can do now to give myself a chance later (other than doing well in the class)?

Ex-boyfriend just got new girlfriend

July 19, 2014
I'm showing signs of depression (near-constant sadness, trouble sleeping, increased anxiety, hair loss, loss of interest in activities, etc.) and I can't help but think it's related to his new relationship. It's been over a year since we broke up. Is this normal? And how can I better come to terms with it?

Help, I'm mentally drained

September 1, 2014
Hi there, I’ve been feeling mentally drained, and don’t think I’m giving myself a chance to slow down and be in the moment. I’m missing lessons, and not meditating on them. I’m taking it pretty hard on myself sometimes. Do you have any solid advice?

Can't Get Him Off My Mind

April 27, 2018
I dated this guy over a year ago and I still miss him. I tried to forget about him but the thought of him always remains in the back of my mind. What should I do?

Need a Roommate ASAP

April 28, 2017
Help! My first year is about to end and I need to find a place to stay ASAP. What are some strategies that people use to find roommates or look for places to stay? I need to maximize my reach at this point!

Should I tell my dad I'm not doing ok?

November 3, 2017
I've been having a rough semester mentally, financially, and socially. My dad calls me about once a week to check in and I don't know how to tell him I'm not doing ok. I know he'd be worried about me and everyone expects me to be having such a great time away at school.Any advice on how to handle this? Is it ok to lie to him?

I think my roommate is eating my food!

March 10, 2017
Help! I think my roommate is eating my food. We shop separately and I’ve been noticing lately that my snacks are disappearing faster than I can eat them. I’m not sure how to bring this up because I don’t wanna get into an argument but I can’t keep wasting money on snacks I’m not eating. Any advice?

RRR Week Reminders

July 23, 2014
It’s Reading/Review/Recitation (RRR) Week and we’re adding a 4th “R” for relaxation. It's important to focus on studying but don't forget to take breaks. Well-timed breaks will help you stay healthy so you can concentrate and learn more easily when you do hit the books. How do you recharge and refresh? Below are some suggested activities. Have a great RRR+R week!

He treats me like crap when we’re apart

July 31, 2014
I’m dating a guy who constantly treats me like crap when we’re apart, but when we’re together, it’s 180. Why is he acting like this? How do I change his behavior?