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This girl and I have been hanging out a lot lately. I can tell feelings are growing between us. But the problem is she has a boyfriend. She’s in a long-distance relationship. She talks to me about their problems all the time. We haven’t done anything… no cheating. I like her but don’t want to get in between her relationship with her boyfriend. What should I do?

"I didn't get the internship that I really wanted and its bumming me out. How can I deal with the feelings of inadequacy that have been coming up?"

My life sucks! I’ve been working so hard at Cal, and my parents don’t understand this isn’t high school anymore. In high school, I took hard classes, but there wasn’t nearly as much competition as here at Berkeley. They just don’t understand that I can’t get straight As anymore. They’re going to freak out if they ever see my report cards. Can I make it so they can’t see my grades? I don’t want to lie to them! Help me, please.

Summer is coming and I want to get outdoors and to the gym more. I hate going alone though! What are some tips on roping my friends into coming with me?

Surviving a Long Distance Relationship 101

I just don’t understand. I was close friends with someone last year, and now we don’t even talk anymore. How can two people share so many wonderful memories and disappear the next? Should I try to reconnect with this person or would that be awkward?

"My parents have been super supportive over the last 5 years. I'm graduating this May but am broke and exhausted. What are some ways that I can still show them appreciation?"

Help! My first year is about to end and I need to find a place to stay ASAP. What are some strategies that people use to find roommates or look for places to stay? I need to maximize my reach at this point!

I am feeling burnt out right now and could use some time to myself. The problem is that I am an extrovert by nature and people have gotten used to me having my dorm room door open and just stopping by. It's already difficult enough living with so many other people, but now that the stress of the semester is high, I'm overwhelmed. What are some ideas that I can use to get some alone time?

First day of classes I formed a study group with two other people. It feels like a good fit bc we get a lot done and I trust their work habits. The problem is that one has a slight body odor and it makes me not want to be around them at times. I'm not sure what to do. We aren't friends so I don't want to offend and possibly lose out on a good study partner.

There's this guy I like, so I asked him to go to a concert with me. He said he would like to but was unable to go. He said though that we could "meet up" another time if I wanted, and asked me to grab coffee and chat with him next week. I just am not sure if he knows that when I asked him to the concert, I was asking him on a date. I only ask because I feel like "grabbing coffee" could be just hanging out as friends, or possibly more. Am I overthinking it?

I’m homesick. My family, friends, dog, and support system are in SoCal so I’ve been feeling lonely since coming to Cal. I have made a few friends but no one that I feel connected to. I’m about to end my first year but seriously thinking about transferring to a school closer to home. I would love to graduate from Cal but don’t know if it’s worth the risk of loneliness or my mental health for the next 3 years. What should I do?

Help! I think my roommate is eating my food. We shop separately and I’ve been noticing lately that my snacks are disappearing faster than I can eat them. I’m not sure how to bring this up because I don’t wanna get into an argument but I can’t keep wasting money on snacks I’m not eating. Any advice?

So I was dating a guy from high school for around 8-9 months. We really loved and cared for each other, and we dated throughout the school year, the summer before college, and a little bit into freshman year of college. We argued a little too much, and we ended on good terms. Obviously, I was still very sad and vulnerable, so a few days after the breakup, I decided to go party and drink a lot. I ended up hooking up with a random guy and drunk-texted my ex about it. He still hasn’t forgiven me.

So, in my opinion, the term “casual” is supposed to be open to interpretation, much like a casual relationship is. It can mean a plethora of things, but generally, the term casual is used to refer to something that’s low-commitment and freer of expectations than a monogamous relationship. I think when defining a “casual” relationship with a partner, it is important to clarify expectations in order to avoid misunderstandings that can breed resentment.

Every time we get into a fight, my boyfriend threatens to break up with me. Is he doing this so I say sorry and he wins the fight or does he not want to be in a relationship with me anymore because of our fights?

I started dating this girl last semester and I really like her. We get along great, she is very supportive, she’s intelligent, and she makes me laugh which is a bonus. The thing is we have different political views on some issues happening in the world right now and can get into heated debates. I often walk away feeling like she doesn’t understand the reality of social justice needs in this country and consider removing her from my life. Are political views worth ending things over or are there better ways that we can work things out?

My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost 3 years and even though I care about him, I think I’m interested in seeing other people. He’s great but I’m starting to wonder what I may be missing out on. Any advice?

I’m going to be around campus for the Thanksgiving holiday. This is my first year at Cal and away from home. What should I expect? What is there to do?

Being a transfer student sucks. It’s almost the end of my first semester and I don’t feel like I have made very much progress socially (or academically). Any tips?