What exactly is a casual relationship?

February 17, 2017

What exactly is a casual relationship?


So, in my opinion, the term “casual” is supposed to be open to interpretation, much like a casual relationship is. It can mean a plethora of things, but generally, the term casual is used to refer to something that’s low-commitment and freer of expectations than a monogamous relationship. I think when defining a “casual” relationship with a partner, it is important to clarify expectations in order to avoid misunderstandings that can breed resentment. For some people, casual may mean that you have multiple partners, for others it can mean a “friends with benefits” type of situation. All relationships are different, and they vary based on the people in them and their expectations going into the relationship. Make sure that your expectations with someone align before defining something as “casual” or “serious,” that way you won’t have to ask the “so… what are we” question that everyone lowkey dreads.


Hi there! Let me just start off by saying that your question can have many different answers depending on who you ask. Therefore I find it best to disclose any biases I have before I give you an answer. I’m a college-age female who tends to have a slight bias against “casual” relationships, just because I’ve seen friends and peers have their feelings hurt because of so-called “casual relationships.” I view casual relationships as relationships in which one (or more) party has no interest in defining the extent of the relationship and is happy in going on dates/“hooking up” when they please. I believe that casual relationships ultimately have more “freedom” but less security. However, I also believe that casual relationships can be beneficial if you’re just entering the dating pool or you’re not ready for a serious commitment. I hope that helps! 


This question is definitely one of the more complicated ones. More and more people are having casual relationships nowadays, but there is still a ton of talk about what the relationship actually entails. I was/am currently in a casual relationship myself. From what I am experiencing, a casual relationship is one that involves two individuals who are physically attracted to each other but neither wants to be labeled as the other’s significant other. There is no emotional attachment or expectations attached to this type of relationship. Honestly, it’s a really grey area. It’s the type of relationship where you spend time with this person because you enjoy their comfort, presence, and physical well-being. However, this CAN get messy. One person might start to develop emotions because of the amount of time spent together, but remember that the two of you are not actually in a relationship. He or she can choose to stop being more than friends whenever they want. The easiest way I can put it is: that a casual relationship is one that involves casual sex (with no feelings attached) or a near-sexual relationship without the typical commitments that tag along with being in a relationship. Oh! There’s also little to no romance involved. This type of relationship requires a tremendous amount of communication to ensure that both parties are content and respected. I hope this clarifies things a little!