Not sure if my girlfriend and I should stay together...

July 23, 2014

I'm a fourth year with a girlfriend, whose graduated from the same school, of almost a year and it's going pretty good. We have our similarities, but we do share a few important, but no deal-breaking differences. Anyways, her major is probably the complete opposite of my major so our futures are pretty destined to go in different directions. Long distance is possible, but we realize it probably wouldn't work out. Breaking up is pretty unavoidable. Should we just break it off now or wait?

It depends on where you two stand as a couple. Do you want to spend every last minute possible with each other or have you both accepted the inevitable and are ready to break it off? If you both have accepted it and are ready, maybe it would be good idea to break it off sooner rather than later, just because you can adapt to single life again before the two have to separate; that way, when you move away from each other, it won’t be such a shock. But if you guys just want to spend as much time with each other as possible, I would just stay together until you absolutely cannot anymore. If you broke it off now, I believe it would be much easier on your heart since you would have time to heal before you left, instead of having to heal while you are in a new town with a new job. But this is completely up to the two of you, talk to your girlfriend about it and see what she thinks.


L Babycakes,

It is true that differences between two people in a relationship can be an issue. However, this usually relates to current issues. Mama Luv feels that your relationship differences with your girlfriend is something that will occur in the future, meaning we cannot be certain about what will happen. However, if both of you are certain that long-distance is inevitable, then the question to ask yourselves is: do you want to try long-distance? This is because long-distance can work if both parties are willing to put effort to make it happen. But, if one person believes long-distance won’t work and therefore, are not interested in trying, then it most likely will not work. Sweetheart, Mama Luv would suggest thinking about your response to this question to better understand how you really feel about the situation. When you’re sure of how you feel, bring up the question to your girlfriend. In the meantime, keep your chin up, strut with confidence, and shake what your mama gave ya! Mama Luv is here to help.


Mama Luv