Love Cafe Q&A

How do I cope with a breakup

August 20, 2014
I am currently going through a break-up and it hurts so much. The relationship that I had was extremely confusing. We were on and off for about half a year! He was my best friend before we started talking. We ended our relationship on good terms but many times I miss him terribly and become quite depressed. I understand why we had to break up but it hurts to let our memories go.

Practicing Abstinence in College

July 20, 2014
I’m a virgin and want to practice abstinence, but I feel like all couples do in college is have sex. How can I find a guy who will love me for what I believe in?

Tips for UC Berkeley Freshmen

July 7, 2014
Tiff is a UC Berkeley sophomore, and she has these tips for you after navigating her first year on campus.

Friends with Benefits?

November 17, 2017
How do I deal with someone who only wants to be friends with benefits, but I may want more?

Is it a date or not?

April 7, 2017
There's this guy I like, so I asked him to go to a concert with me. He said he would like to but was unable to go. He said though that we could "meet up" another time if I wanted, and asked me to grab coffee and chat with him next week. I just am not sure if he knows that when I asked him to the concert, I was asking him on a date. I only ask because I feel like "grabbing coffee" could be just hanging out as friends, or possibly more. Am I overthinking it?

How do I find love?

February 23, 2018
​How do you find love, in general?

Feeling the Pressure

August 30, 2014
I’ve been feeling a lot of pressure from my peers and myself lately about finding research opportunities. I’m losing sleep, and I feel guilty taking breaks and naps. It’s almost as if I’m not human when I’m so anxious and busy all the time. I even turn down invitations to go out with friends because my schedule is so packed and it feels terrible. I’m trying to change that, but it’s very difficult. And what if I don’t find one that fits my interest or what if it isn’t one of the better ones?

I have a crush on my professor!

July 11, 2014
I have a crush on my professor! What should I do?

In relationship but interested in seeing other people

December 9, 2016
My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost 3 years and even though I care about him, I think I’m interested in seeing other people. He’s great but I’m starting to wonder what I may be missing out on. Any advice?

Boyfriend threatens to break up

February 10, 2017
Every time we get into a fight, my boyfriend threatens to break up with me. Is he doing this so I say sorry and he wins the fight or does he not want to be in a relationship with me anymore because of our fights?