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August 13, 2014

I recently entered a relationship with a guy who's not a virgin. I am, and plan to be until marriage. He knows this and says he's ok with it but also says that it's difficult for guys to control their sexual desires. We've never reached a concrete resolution to this problem, but I would love some insight on how or if you think this could still work...
There is a really charming guy at a cafe that I go to, I've seen him several times. I don't know how to start a conversation! And a lot of times, he has a few other peoples with him.

August 11, 2014

I'm a virgin and my boyfriend of five months isn't. I recently have been hearing about him talking to mutual friends about his sexual past, and it bothers me to hear about it. Should I ask him to tell me everything? Is it a good idea for me to be kept blind about his sexual history?

August 10, 2014

I’ve been dating this guy for 2 months now and things are going well but every time I bring up the subject of finally becoming “official”, he would change topics or look so uncomfortable that I just end up saying nevermind. I’m getting really frustrated now but I don’t know what say without sounding desperate/needy. How should I approach him about this?

August 8, 2014

I always seem to be disappointed with my boyfriend. He says he cares about me and misses me whenever we’re apart but his actions show otherwise, such as canceling on dates, and setting a time limit on how much we should spend time together since he’s so busy with school. And whenever we’re together, we’re usually doing something he wants, especially having sex. Sometimes I really feel that he does care about me but am I being delusional and is he just lying?


August 7, 2014

My roommate constantly lets her boyfriend sleepover so I’m always getting sexiled overnight (so it’s the couch for me…). I’ve already told her that I don’t like him staying over so much but she always comes up with excuses as to why he had to. I don’t want to fight with her over such a petty issue but I can’t take it anymore, help!

August 6, 2014

If I’m a shy person, but I have my eye on snagging a Valentine, what are some ways I can go about either being a secret admirer or just straight forward with this person?
I’ve noticed recently that my best friend and I have grown to be very different people with different values, goals, and attitudes towards life. Because of this, it’s hard to talk with each other now without feeling really bored to the point I actually dread our catch-up sessions. I really want to stay good friends with her and I feel sad that this is happening to us. Can I save our friendship or should I just come to terms with us drifting apart?

August 5, 2014

I hooked up with a girl I work with and now it’s a bit awkward, which is affecting our team progress. What should I do?

August 3, 2014

Somewhat relationship related... Since going on the pill a few months ago, my vagina seems to have forgotten how to lubricate itself. My SO doesn't have a problem with it, but it makes me self conscious about sex. What can I do?

August 2, 2014

i have a friend that i like, and he likes me to. we didn't like each other from the beginning, and it was all a game when we started chatting. but now we came out with our feelings. we never kissed because i didn't wanted to, but we did a lot of other stuff. the problem is that he has s gf and i don't think he would leave her, or at least i don't want him to. i like him a lot, but i am no sure if i want to be with him. sometimes it's great to be with him and i love him, but others it feels wrong

August 1, 2014

I may have been exposed to HPV. I am a male. Is there anything I can do?
My boyfriend and I have our anniversary coming up tomorrow, but we won't be able to see each other and we can't skype or anything. I still want to do something special for the day though, what do I do?

July 31, 2014

I’m dating a guy who constantly treats me like crap when we’re apart, but when we’re together, it’s 180. Why is he acting like this? How do I change his behavior?

July 30, 2014

My girlfriend cheated on me and she swears it was a one time drunken mistake. We’ve been together for 4 years. Should I forgive her? She’s never lost my trust before but I am really hurt by this.

July 28, 2014

There's this guy- a relationship without a label. He stated he needed space after about 2 weeks and that he "liked me too much" and was scared. we decreased hanging out- then we began hanging out again. I had sex with him, he was my first. since then we've been friends with benefits- but I think I am liking him too much and half the time we will only talk once or twice during the week- he's very distant but still treats me like i'm everything when i'm with him- what do i do, i'm confused

July 27, 2014

I have been had a crush on a good friend for a few months. He recently ended a long-term relationship, and about a month later I asked him out, to which he seemed really flattered and said he'd think about. A couple weeks later, he said he didn't think of me that way and it didn't seem like a good idea. More recently though, he seems really flirty and seems like he is now crushing on me. Should I try again, or would it seem desperate? Is the "ball in his court?"
This is a really uncomfortable situation. I think the best thing to do is to be very explicit that you do NOT want to be contacted anymore…don’t sugar coat anything! Let him know upfront that you are not interested and that you would like him to stop calling. If this persists to the point of it making you feel unsafe or uncomfortable, you should definitely talk to the police. –Guest Barista Emily

July 26, 2014

I’m dreading going home during the Winter Break. Whenever I’m home my parents treat me like a teenager. They quiz me about where I’m going and even enforce a midnight curfew! What can I do to make my life less miserable during the break?
I have never been in a relationship before, and I wonder if it is because I am too picky in looking for partners. While looking for potential girlfriends, I never seem to get the 'perfect storm': Similarities in personalities and interests, physical attraction, and reciprocated interest. It always ever seems to be just two at a time. My friends insist I just haven't met the 'right person'... But can I honestly expect to meet such a 'perfect storm' person, or is that just a fairy tale?