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November 11, 2016

Being a transfer student sucks. It’s almost the end of my first semester and I don’t feel like I have made very much progress socially (or academically, really). Any tips?

November 4, 2016

My roommate and I are on two different schedules. I’m up early getting ready for 8am’s and he tends to get back to the apartment late- plus, he’s a night owl. He’s gotten upset with me in the past for making noise "too early” and honestly, he wakes me up at times when he’s up late at night. What can I do about this?

October 28, 2016

I’ve changed my major twice already and am thinking about changing it for a third time. I feel confident that I’m making the right choice this time, my only problem is that I haven’t told my parents yet. They’ve freaked out on me already for not sticking with one major and I don’t know how to bring the conversation up again. I’m nervous because I don’t want them to see me as flaky or irresponsible. How can I talk to them about it?

October 21, 2016

Dorm plague is rampant in unit 3. How can I best prevent myself from catching what others have?

October 14, 2016

How would you define a healthy friendship?
I live in unit 1 and even though we’ve been in school almost a month, I still haven’t made any friends. I thought living in the dorms would give me a better chance to meet people but it is harder than I thought. What are some tips on making friends while living in the dorms?

October 7, 2016

So, to start off with, I’m going to be using the term sexual debut to refer to the concept of virginity, as the term “virginity” tends to be attached to some heteronormative connotations. However, go ahead and call it whatever you feel comfortable calling it, but I personally prefer to use the term sexual debut because I feel that virginity is attached directly to the act of having penetrative sex, while I prefer to keep the concept of sex open-ended, and open to interpretation.

September 23, 2016

I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years and my girlfriend and I have had what I consider a great relationship. Last week she confessed to cheating while she was home for the summer and I don’t know what to do. I try to be the best partner I can and know that she loves me but I’m mad and don’t trust her and have thought about breaking up. She says she wants to be with me but how do I know she’s telling the truth?

September 9, 2016

The semester just started and I’m already worried that I’m going to fall behind in classes. Its super easy for me to get distracted so procrastination is becoming a problem. I’ve downloaded an app that blocks me from sites that I get sucked into like FB or Reddit but it’s not enough. Advice- please!

June 4, 2016

I have had the same roommate for two years and consider her a good friend of mine. I know this semester has been hectic, but my roommate tends to use this as an excuse for snapping on me. She does this to other people as well, ‘Ive noticed. Should I say something to her? Or Ignore it. What are ways I can be supportive of her through really stressful times?

April 29, 2016

I shaved the sides of my hair this semester (I’m a girl) and am nervous about my conservative family and community because I don’t know how they will react. I can always buy a wig (?) but want to practice being more confident while sporting my new do. Any advice for helping me prepare to handle the inevitable criticism? I love my family but know that we hold very different views. Is there anyway to reach a middle ground?

April 16, 2016

I’ve been dating a guy who is nice to me but I think he just wants sex. It’s confusing because I’ve dated other guys who only want physical and will make that clear, but this guy is still nice to me. How can I determine if he’s only in it for the physical?
I am really happy with my boyfriend whenever we are not fighting. We make each other laugh and smile. However whenever we fight, it is just the worst. I know that every couple fights, but sometimes I feel like we fight too much. Moreover, I get hurt during our fights - not physically but more on an emotional level. He would say “what is your problem”, “that was a stupid reason”, “you are selfish”, or “you are cheap”. I want to feel respected during the happy times and the fighting times.

April 1, 2016

So I haven’t dated in while and I think I might be interested in this guy I just met in my organization. Problem is I think I’m too scared of something because I feel like I have been rejecting myself. Telling myself if he had found me attractive he would have already approached me. I feel like I’m such a fool because I haven’t really tried talking to him. Maybe I’m being too hard on myself but I would really like to know the guy a bit more where do I start?

March 25, 2016

Hi, this is my first semester at Cal as a transfer student and I have only gone on 1 date so far. I realized that balancing life here at Cal is not an easy task, given the academic rigor here is quite real. I was just wondering how I can get more dates while spending my time here at Cal. Thanks!​

September 8, 2014

I have a friend who has a overly controlling and jealous boyfriend. What is the best approach for this situation if the girl knows the situation she is in but feels she cannot talk to him about it?

September 1, 2014

Hi there, I’ve been feeling mentally drained and I don’t think I’m giving myself a chance to slow down and be in the moment. I’m missing lessons, and not meditating on them. I’m taking it pretty hard on myself sometimes. Have any solid advice?

August 31, 2014

My friends and I went to a concert but someone in our group got carried away with substance use. It’s because we care about his safety that we told him he couldn’t come with us to future outings unless he learns to control himself. He got offended and thinks we’re punishing him, and it’s frustrating. What should we do?
I’m torn between going home for the summer and staying here for work or a summer internship. I get homesick, and miss my family, but the thought of not having enough for my resume in the near future and lazing my days away at home and spending quality time with the ones I love most seems almost unheard of. What should I do? :(
I have a lot of image issues. This year, it just got worse since I started college and was stressed and kept eating. I put on a lot of weight and now that I’m home for the summer, my family can’t stop talking about it. It stresses me out and just puts me in a bad downward spiral. Help?