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Study Partner has BO. Help!

April 14, 2017
"First day of classes I formed a study group with 2 other people. It feels like a good fit bc we get a lot done and I trust their work habits. The problem is that one has a slight BO {sic: body odor} and it makes me not want to be around them at times. I'm not sure what to do. We aren't really friends so I don't want to offend and possibly lose out on a good study partner."

I asked this guy I like on a date for coffee, but I'm not sure if registered it's a date

April 7, 2017
There's this guy I really like, so I asked him to go to a concert with me. He said he would really like to, but was unable to go. He said though that we could "meet up" another time if I wanted, and asked me to grab coffee and chat with him next week. I just am not sure if he knows that when I asked him to the concert, I was asking him on a date. I only ask because I feel like "grabbing coffee" could be just hanging out as friends, or possibly more. Am I overthinking it?

I have a smelly roommate

July 21, 2014
My roommate goes out partying/drinking and comes back late and just goes to bed without showering or changing and she stinks up the whole room because of it (she goes partying days at a time then wakes up early to go to class so she goes days without showering). Is there a nicer way to say “you stink, please shower at least once a day?”

My boyfriend and I fight often and I'm emotionally hurt

April 16, 2016
I am really happy with my boyfriend whenever we are not fighting. We make each other laugh and smile. However whenever we fight, it is just the worst. I know that every couple fights, but sometimes I feel like we fight too much. Moreover, I get hurt during our fights - not physically but more on an emotional level. He would say “what is your problem”, “that was a stupid reason”, “you are selfish”, or “you are cheap”. I want to feel respected during the happy times and the fighting times.

I think the guy I'm dating only likes me for the sex..

April 16, 2016
I’ve been dating a guy who is nice to me but I think he just wants sex. It’s confusing because I’ve dated other guys who only want physical and will make that clear, but this guy is still nice to me. How can I determine if he’s only in it for the physical?

Are political views worth ending things over or are there better ways that we can work things out?

February 3, 2017
I started dating this girl last semester and I really like her. We get along great, she is very supportive, she’s intelligent, and she makes me laugh which is a bonus. The thing is we have different political views on some issues happening in the world right now and can get into heated debates. I often walk away feeling like she doesn’t understand the reality of social justice needs in this country and consider removing her from my life. Are political views worth ending things over or are there better ways that we can work things out?

Every time we get into a fight, my boyfriend threatens to break up with me

February 10, 2017
Every time we get into a fight, my boyfriend threatens to break up with me. Is he doing this so I say sorry and he wins the fight, or does he really not want to be in a relationship with me anymore because of our fights?

What exactly is a casual relationship?

February 17, 2017
So, in my opinion, the term “casual” is supposed to be open to interpretation, much like a casual relationship is. It can mean a plethora of things, but generally the term casual is used to refer to something that’s low-commitment and freer of expectations than a monogamous relationship. I think when defining a “casual” relationship with a partner, it is important to clarify expectations in order to avoid misunderstandings that can breed resentment.

I hooked up with a random guy and regret telling my ex about it

March 3, 2017
So I was dating a guy from high school for around 8-9 months. We really loved and cared for each other, and we dated throughout the school year, the summer before college, and a little bit into freshman year of college. We argued a little too much, and we ended on good terms. Obviously I was still very sad and vulnerable, so a few days after the breakup, I decided to go party and drink a lot. I ended up hooking up with a random guy and drunk texted my ex about it. He still hasn’t forgiven me.

Help, I think my roommate is eating my food!

March 10, 2017
Help! I think my roommate is eating my food. We shop separately and I’ve been noticing lately that my snacks are disappearing faster than I am able to eat them. I’m not sure how to bring this up because I don’t wanna get into an argument but I can’t keep wasting money on snacks I’m not eating. Any advice?