Love Cafe

I'm dry in the bedroom - what do I do?

August 3, 2014
Somewhat relationship related... Since going on the pill a few months ago, my vagina seems to have forgotten how to lubricate itself. My SO doesn't have a problem with it, but it makes me self conscious about sex. What can I do?

I'm emotionally into someone who is already taken

August 2, 2014
i have a friend that i like, and he likes me to. we didn't like each other from the beginning, and it was all a game when we started chatting. but now we came out with our feelings. we never kissed because i didn't wanted to, but we did a lot of other stuff. the problem is that he has s gf and i don't think he would leave her, or at least i don't want him to. i like him a lot, but i am no sure if i want to be with him. sometimes it's great to be with him and i love him, but others it feels wrong

I may have been exposed to HPV. Is there anything I can do?

August 1, 2014
I may have been exposed to HPV. I am a male. Is there anything I can do?

How do I get this married man I used to see to stop calling me?

July 27, 2014
This is a really uncomfortable situation. I think the best thing to do is to be very explicit that you do NOT want to be contacted anymore…don’t sugar coat anything! Let him know upfront that you are not interested and that you would like him to stop calling. If this persists to the point of it making you feel unsafe or uncomfortable, you should definitely talk to the police. –Guest Barista Emily

I have never been in a relationship before

July 26, 2014
I have never been in a relationship before, and I wonder if it is because I am too picky in looking for partners. While looking for potential girlfriends, I never seem to get the 'perfect storm': Similarities in personalities and interests, physical attraction, and reciprocated interest. It always ever seems to be just two at a time. My friends insist I just haven't met the 'right person'... But can I honestly expect to meet such a 'perfect storm' person, or is that just a fairy tale?

Not sure if my girlfriend and I should stay together...

July 23, 2014
I'm a fourth year with a girlfriend, whose graduated from the same school, of almost a year and it's going pretty good. We have our similarities, but we do share a few important, but no deal-breaking differences. Anyways, her major is probably the complete opposite of my major so our futures are pretty destined to go in different directions. Long distance is possible, but we realize it probably wouldn't work out. Breaking up is pretty unavoidable. Should we just break it off now or wait?

Reminder about “RRRR” week

July 23, 2014
It’s Reading/Review/Recitation (RRR) Week. But don’t just go to the library…take some breaks with friends. We’re adding a 4th “R” for relaxation. Obviously this is not the time to take days off for relaxation :-) But well timed breaks with friends will help you stay healthy— so you can concentrate and learn more easily when you do hit the books. Have a great RRRR week!

I have a crush on my GSI. What do I do?

July 22, 2014
The one in question is at least five years older than me and a Ph.D. candidate in a field I'm VERY interested in, but I'm just a lowly undergrad struggling in this GSI's class. I understand (and agree) that taking any action while the student-teacher relationship is going on is unprofessional and bound to lead to sticky situations, but is there anything I can do now to give myself a chance later (other than doing well in the class)?

My ex-boyfriend just got a new girlfriend and I'm surprised how upset I am about it

July 19, 2014
I'm showing signs of depression (near constant sadness, trouble sleeping, increased anxiety, hair loss, loss of interest in activities, etc.) and I can't help but think it's related to his new relationship. It's been over a year since we broke up. Is this normal? And how can I better come to terms with it?

I'm shy and having trouble asking someone out

July 18, 2014
I’m shy and I’m having trouble asking people out. What advice can you give me to ask this cute guy out I really like?