Love Cafe Q&A

Q&A: Family

August 26, 2014
I am having trouble with my family. My dad and my mom fight all the time. I often side with my mom in their arguments and understand her reasoning. Although I love my father, he is extremely stubborn and does not want to listen or change his ways. I do not know how to help the situation.

Friendships Q&A

September 8, 2014
I have a friend who has an overly controlling and jealous boyfriend. What is the best approach for this situation if the girl knows the situation she is in but feels she cannot talk to him about it?

Staying healthy in the dorms

October 21, 2016
Dorm plague is rampant in Unit 3. How can I best prevent myself from catching what others have?

Never been in a relationship

July 26, 2014
I have never been in a relationship before, and I wonder if it is because I am too picky. While looking for potential girlfriends, I never seem to find the perfect match: Similar personalities and interests, physical attraction, and reciprocated interest. It always ever seems to be just two at a time. My friends insist I just haven't met the right person. But can I expect to meet such a perfect match or is that just a fairy tale?

Stagnant Relationship

April 8, 2014
I'm worried that things might be getting stagnant with my boyfriend. I'm busy with class and he's working, so when we do hang out. We don't have much time to go out or anything. I don't want our relationship to become "boring" but I also don't want to get behind in my classes. What should I do?

Hanging out on a budget

February 9, 2014
Money is tight right now and I’m trying to be as careful with spending as possible. My friends want to go out for lunch/dinner with me and I don’t know how to tell them that I can’t afford to because going out with a couple of people per week will add up. I don’t want to turn them down, because they have been asking me and want to see how I am doing. Help!

Disappointed with boyfriend

August 8, 2014
I always seem to be disappointed with my boyfriend.

He says he cares about me and misses me whenever we’re apart but his actions show otherwise, such as canceling dates and setting a time limit on how much we should spend time together since he’s so busy with school. And whenever we’re together, we’re usually doing something he wants, especially having sex. Sometimes I feel that he does care about me but am I being delusional and is he just lying?

This does seem odd to me. I think you should see how he’s spending his time without you. If he’s making way more time for other friends...

Used to be friends

May 12, 2017
I just don’t understand. I was close friends with someone last year, and now we don’t even talk anymore. How can two people share so many wonderful memories and disappear the next? Should I try to reconnect with this person or would that be awkward?

Will our friendship change?

May 4, 2018
My friend is getting into a relationship and I am very happy for her but I am afraid that we will not be as close as we used to be. What should I do?

Thinking about Transferring

March 24, 2017
I’m homesick. My family, friends, dog, and support system are in SoCal so I’ve been feeling lonely since coming to Cal. I have made a few friends but no one that I feel connected to. I’m about to end my first year but seriously thinking about transferring to a school closer to home. I would love to graduate from Cal but don’t know if it’s worth the risk of loneliness or my mental health for the next 3 years. What should I do?