Love Cafe

Relationship or single-life in college. Which is better?

November 9, 2017
"I've been dating someone for the first time and it's serious enough that I can envision staying with them for a long time. On the other hand, though, I worry that in the future I may re​​gret not dating more people in college and experimenting to see what I truly want from a relationship. How do I reconcile my happiness with my current relationship with my doubt?"

I cheated on my boyfriend...Now what?!

February 16, 2018
I cheated on my boyfriend of a couple of years over the winter break. It wasn’t intentional but it happened, and I finally told him recently, because I figured if I really cared about him, I owe him the truth and should let him decide where to take things from here. But I feel so alone without him, because he was my best friend. Did I do the right thing? Should I just have not told him and kept going? ​​

Hooking Up When You Have A Roommate

September 15, 2017
"How do I arrange bringing someone home for intimacy with my roommates?"

Heartbroken ex-boyfriend

July 5, 2014
I’ve broken up with my long-term boyfriend recently, but we can’t stop talking since the break up. I made it clear to him that I just wanted a casual/physical relationship (no labels), nothing serious. He was completely fine with it when we agreed. While casually seeing him, I was also fooling around with other guys. When I told him about it, he seemed heartbroken. I don’t want to hurt his feelings but I also understand that we agreed on having just a casual relationship. Any suggestions?

Crushin Hard on My...Professor?!

February 9, 2018
"I have a crush on my professor. What should I do?"

Close Friends Don't Talk Anymore?

May 12, 2017
I just don’t understand. I was close friends with someone last year, and now we don’t even talk anymore. How can two people share so many wonderful memories and disappear the next? Should I try to reconnect with this person or would that be awkward?

Cant get him off of my mind...

April 27, 2018
I dated this guy over a year ago and I still miss him. I tried to forget about him but the thought of him always remains in the back of my mind. What should I do?

"I need some alone time!"

April 21, 2017
"I am feeling burnt out right now and could use some time to myself. The problem is that I am an extrovert by nature and people have gotten used to me having my dorm room door open and just stopping by. It's already difficult enough living with so many other people, but now that the stress of the semester is high, I'm overwhelmed. What are some ideas that I can use to get some alone time?"

Showing Parents Some Appreciation

May 5, 2017
"My parents have been super supportive over the last 5 years. I'm graduating this May but am broke and exhausted. What are some ways that I can still show them appreciation?"

My Parents Will Freak Out Over My Grade

June 16, 2017
My life sucks! I’ve been working so hard to come to Cal, and my parents don’t understand this isn’t high school anymore. In high school, I took hard classes, but there wasn’t nearly as much competition as here at Berkeley. They just don’t understand that I can’t get straight As anymore. They’re going to freak out if they ever see my report cards. Can I make it so they can’t see my grades? I don’t want to lie to them! Help me please.”