Love Cafe Q&A

I am currently going through a break-up and it hurts so much. The relationship that I had was extremely confusing. We were on and off for about half a year! He was my best friend before we started talking. We ended our relationship on good terms but many times I miss him terribly and become quite depressed. I understand why we had to break up but it hurts to let our memories go.

Tiff is a UC Berkeley sophomore, and she has these tips for you after navigating her first year on campus.

There's this guy I like, so I asked him to go to a concert with me. He said he would like to but was unable to go. He said though that we could "meet up" another time if I wanted, and asked me to grab coffee and chat with him next week. I just am not sure if he knows that when I asked him to the concert, I was asking him on a date. I only ask because I feel like "grabbing coffee" could be just hanging out as friends, or possibly more. Am I overthinking it?

I’ve been feeling a lot of pressure from my peers and myself lately about finding research opportunities. I’m losing sleep, and I feel guilty taking breaks and naps. It’s almost as if I’m not human when I’m so anxious and busy all the time. I even turn down invitations to go out with friends because my schedule is so packed and it feels terrible. I’m trying to change that, but it’s very difficult. And what if I don’t find one that fits my interest or what if it isn’t one of the better ones?