July 19, 2014
My ex-boyfriend just got a new girlfriend and I'm surprised how upset I am about it. I'm showing signs of depression (near-constant sadness, trouble sleeping, increased anxiety, hair loss, loss of interest in activities, etc.) and I can't help but think it's related to his new relationship. It's been over a year since we broke up. Is this normal? And how can I better come to terms with it?
Hi there, It sounds like you’re having a tough time. Feelings around breakups can take some time to sort through. Please consider taking advantage of campus or community medical and counseling services. If you are a Berkeley student, you can make a medical appointment (to check out the sleep and hair loss issues, for example) at (510) 642-2000, and/or for feelings of depression, you can always call UHS Mental Health Services at (510) 642-9494. Also, several older posts deal with how to handle breakups. For sure, reach out to friends to talk, get down a regular exercise program (to release those “happy hormones), and try to do things you know will cheer you up. Take care.