My roommate goes out partying/drinking and comes back late and just goes to bed without showering or changing and she stinks up the whole room because of it (she goes partying days at a time then wakes up early to go to class so she goes days without showering). Is there a nicer way to say “you stink, please shower at least once a day?”
When dealing with a roommate, you should always strive to be direct. Tell them exactly what is bothering you, but in a friendly and non-aggressive way. Also, when you approach them you can ask her if there’s anything you do as a roommate that bothers her. Make it an open conversation where they don’t feel attacked. If after this conversation they do start showering and doing what you’ve asked, make sure to show them that you appreciate it so they’ll be more likely to repeat the behavior. If, however, they don’t listen to you or a big fight ensues, you can find some sort of mediator to help you.
As you’re aware, different roommate living habits can be an issue! If your roommate’s habits are negatively affecting you, the best solution is to kindly tell her how you feel. Mama Luv would suggest bringing up how you two can be better roommates to each other. Start by explaining the positive things about living with your roommate. Then, maybe ease into how you noticed an odor in the room, think it can be attributed to your roommate’s living style, and would really appreciate if she can change her habits so that you can be more comfortable. Honey, be sure to open up the discussion to how you can be a better roommate as well! Regardless of what happens, keep your chin up, strut with confidence, and shake what your mama gave ya! Mama Luv is here to help.