He treats me like crap when we’re apart - what do I do?

July 31, 2014

I’m dating a guy who constantly treats me like crap when we’re apart, but when we’re together, it’s 180. Why is he acting like this? How do I change his behavior?

Sweetie pie,

It’s understandable that you’re bothered about the hot and cold relationship you have with him. However, something very important to understand is that it is difficult to change a person! If you want to find out why he is acting that way, Mama Luv would suggest to be straightforward by asking him! You and Mama Luv can come up with reasons for his behavior, but will never truly know until you ask him. Baby, don’t forget to reconsider if you two are on the same page about your relationship! In the meantime, don’t forget to keep your chin up, strut with confidence, and shake what your mama gave ya! Mama Luv is here to help.

Mama Luv

To me, this sounds like a case of immaturity and passive aggressiveness. Acting like a jerk when you are apart probably draws you to get back together! It seems like he is toying with your emotions to get exactly what he wants. If I were you, I would have a very upfront and blunt talk with him and let him know that the way he treats you when you two are apart is not okay. If his behavior persists, I think you should definitely reevaluate your relationship.

–Guest Barista Emily