Is this considered a long-term relationship?

July 13, 2014

My boyfriend and I have been officially dating for almost a year. He goes away for 3 weeks to go on vacation with his family to China. When I saw him right when he came back, I looked through pictures of their trip and his mom told me, “Half of China knows who you are because he told everyone that he had a girlfriend who was from Hong Kong.” I feel flattered and proud to be his girlfriend. Should I take that as a signal that our relationship will go long-term?


That’s great! I think that you can take this as a sign that he is very committed to you and is proud to have such a great girlfriend. However, the only way to find out the answer to your question is to ask him about it, because he’s the only one who knows what he thinks of your relationship. Have you two discussed your future together? If so, how did he respond to that? If not, maybe it’s time to ask him what he sees for the two of you in the future and see how he reacts. In a relationship, it’s important to be able to openly communicate and discuss your concerns, but talking out something like this with your significant other can also be very exciting! Good luck!  

Love,

Clarissa

Any compliment your boyfriends gives you is a definite good sign for your relationship! It’s also great to hear that he not only shares his compliments of you to you but to other people as well. This shows he cares for you and wants others to know he does too. It’s also even better if the other people he shares this with are his family members. You do not just introduce anyone into your family, only the people you hold close to your heart in the hopes that they will too. So, the fact that he complimented you on his family is a great sign. Long-term in regards to a couple of years? I believe this could be plausible, he seems to care for you. Marriage? I’m not sure, we are still young and things do happen (people go to different grad schools, travel to different countries for long periods, meet new people, etc). But if the love is strong enough to stay between you for not only the next few years but for the rest of your life then yes, marriage is always a possibility between those who are in love. 

–Nicky


It’s great to hear that you are proud to be with your boyfriend! It is most definitely good news that your boyfriend has introduced you to many of his family and friends in China. However, the safest conclusion to make from this is that your boyfriend is very happy to be with you as well. If you’re looking for a more definite answer to whether he sees the relationship as ‘long-term’, then Mama Luv would suggest discussing the situation with him because 'long-term’ can be different for each person. Overall, sweetheart, Mama Luv does see this as a good sign. So continue to keep your chin up, strut with confidence, and shake what your mama gave ya! Mama Luv is here to help. 

Love,
Mama Luv