Connection Cafe - A relationship Without a Label Problems

July 28, 2014

There's this guy- a relationship without a label. He stated he needed space after about 2 weeks and that he "liked me too much" and was scared. we decreased hanging out- then we began hanging out again. I had sex with him, he was my first. since then we've been friends with benefits- but I think I am liking him too much and half the time we will only talk once or twice during the week- he's very distant but still treats me like i'm everything when i'm with him- what do i do, i'm confused

It is possible that this guy is conflicted about his feelings with you. He may really like you, but not be ready for a relationship at the time. Maybe he’s also busy with school or work during the week. If this goes on for much longer, I think you should confront him about his strange behavior. Tell him you’re okay with the way things have been going, but that you would like to know where he stands on this whole thing and what he’s thinking about.



It’s important to realize that communication is the best way to understand what the other person is feeling. From your descriptions, it may be possible that he likes you but does not want a serious relationship right now. However, being distant also makes it possible that he only wants a physical relationship. Mama Luv would suggest you to first figure out what you want and then ask him about the status of the relationship. Having a discussion about it is the best way to figure out if you two are on the same page and if the relationship should continue. Honey, remember that no matter what, keep your chin up, strut with confidence, and shake what your mama gave ya! Mama Luv is here to help.


Mama Luv