Connection Cafe - Can We Be More than Friends?

July 27, 2014

I have been had a crush on a good friend for a few months. He recently ended a long-term relationship, and about a month later I asked him out, to which he seemed really flattered and said he'd think about. A couple weeks later, he said he didn't think of me that way and it didn't seem like a good idea. More recently though, he seems really flirty and seems like he is now crushing on me. Should I try again, or would it seem desperate? Is the "ball in his court?"

Dear Crushing,

Definitely wait! The ball is totally in his court. You’ve already expressed your feelings, and he knows you would be interested in having a relationship with him. I think the best thing now is to continue being good friends and hanging out. If he flirts, flirt back! Make him realize that your friendship is something you’d like to take to the next level. And if he doesn’t reciprocate feelings, you will at least maintain a great friendship.

–Guest Barista Emily

Sweetie, It seems like he’s been giving you mixed signals. Mama Luv would suggest being direct with him by asking whether he has feelings now because you feel like he’s being more flirty. It can be possible that he’s grown to like you. But it could also be possible that as your relationship with him develops, being friendly can be more “flirty”. Regardless, keep your chin up, strut with confidence, and shake what your mama gave ya! Mama Luv is here to help.

Love, Mama Luv