Connection Cafe - Best Friends Forever?

August 6, 2014

I’ve noticed recently that my best friend and I have grown to be very different people with different values, goals, and attitudes toward life. Because of this, it’s hard to talk with each other now without feeling really bored to the point I actually dread our catch-up sessions. I really want to stay good friends with her and I feel sad that this is happening to us. Can I save our friendship or should I just come to terms with us drifting apart?  


It is absolutely normal to grow apart. After all, people do change. Yes, it could be upsetting when friends drift apart. However, you can still be “best friends” with someone without sharing things in common. It could be a friendship based on memory, trust, or even time. You can try to find and start new things to have in common or do together. However, it is alright to just catch up once in a while. Hope this helps.

Mama Luv: 

It’s very common for two friends to become two very different people. However, this doesn’t necessarily mean that you two will continue to drift apart and no longer be friends! It may be possible that your relationship with your best friend will not be as close as it once was, but baby, look for the positives. This will allow you more time to develop great friendships with those who do share the same values, goals, and attitudes toward life. Once you find those people, you can still be close friends with your best friends. Just don’t forget to keep your chin up, strut with confidence, and shake what your mama gave ya!