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July 9, 2014

My first relationship is a long distance one. It’s going to be a year before we’re reunited. We were both raised in completely different environments. I keep telling myself to stop worrying so much and just enjoy it. It’s hard though. How can you develop a relationship over webcam/online chatting?

July 8, 2014

I cheated on my boyfriend of a couple of years over the summer. It wasn’t intentional but it happened, and I finally told him recently, because I figured if I really cared about him, I owe him the truth and should let him decide where to take things from here. But I feel so alone without him, because he was my best friend. Did I do the right thing? Should I just have not told him and kept going?

July 7, 2014

Our friend Tiff is a Cal sophomore, and she has these tips for you after having navigated her first year on campus.

July 6, 2014

I am bisexual and finally happy that I can admit it. But I am worried about myself because I have never had a partner. I have never even kissed or dated someone. Everytime school is on a break and I go home, everyone asks me if I have found someone. It makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me. I do want to find that person, but I’m also embarrassed about my lack of experience and just feel like I need to vent about it.

July 5, 2014

I’ve broken up with my long-term boyfriend recently, but we can’t stop talking since the break up. I made it clear to him that I just wanted a casual/physical relationship (no labels), nothing serious. He was completely fine with it when we agreed. While casually seeing him, I was also fooling around with other guys. When I told him about it, he seemed heartbroken. I don’t want to hurt his feelings but I also understand that we agreed on having just a casual relationship. Any suggestions?

July 4, 2014

I have become pretty good friends with one of my guy friends. Unfortunately, as I got to know him better, I liked him more as more than a friend. I’m too afraid to say anything about it to him because I think it will make things weird and I’m afraid to lose the friendship. It has also been previously awkward between us because we’ve made out and such at parties and I’m just glad that the awkward stage is over. But now I’m not sure what to do if I like him as more than a friend.

July 3, 2014

My roommate and I have been living together since our freshman year in the dorms. I’ll admit, he’s a little unmotivated, nice looking guy who is constantly under the influence of something. I, myself, am a bit opposite, but we get along great - I am pre-med, constantly studying and/or doing research. My question is this: does physical attraction/physique increase the chances of being hired? Like hot bartenders at a high-end nightclub…

July 2, 2014

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months now, and I know I’m being silly but I’m hurt he’s never had a picture of the two of us as a Facebook profile picture! He’s had pictures of him with other girls, but never me! I don’t want to seem immature and superficial by bringing it up, but seriously, but the deal?

April 8, 2014

I'm worried that things might be getting stagnant with my boyfriend. I'm really busy with class and he's working, so when we do hang out we don't have much time to go out or anything. I don't want our relationship to becoming "boring" but I also don't want to get behind in my classes. What should I do?

March 31, 2014

My roommate’s boyfriend is like always over at our place. It’s a bit frustrating; because I told her again and again I don’t feel comfortable with her boyfriend sleeping over. Our place is really cramped, and a third person is really really really bothersome. I guess she thought a loophole would be to sneak him in after I fell asleep (which is arguably one of the stupidest loopholes I have ever encountered.) Our water and electricity bill definitely got higher after he started coming over. When I brought this up to them, he offered to pay for a third. At first I thought OKAY, because that meant less bills. But I guess we had a miscommunication, and now her boyfriend feels like he has more of a right to stay over. But he DOES NOOOTTTTTT.

March 11, 2014

I’ve been so stressed this semester that I haven’t been feeling much like a girl, as in dressing up a bit, putting on some make-up, or doing my hair. I don’t understand how others can keep up with all that despite being in the middle of midterm season. I feel really gross since I don’t really care about what I wear or how I look. How can I find a balance?

March 3, 2014

My friend applied as an officer in a club that I am a chairmen for. I thought she was decently qualified, but my co-chair said that promoting her to an officer position might cause drama in the club because it seems like we’re playing favoritism (which we kinda did slightly throughout the year.) We picked a different applicant. She was a little upset but she got over it. Fast forward 4 months, it accidentally slipped out that the reason she wasn’t picked as an officer was because we didn’t want to hurt the rep of the club. Now she’s really upset with me and she wont talk to me. She’s acting up in the club and the other officers are talking about kicking her out. I dont know how to save our friendship.

February 24, 2014

Last week, my friend called me and she was incredibly drunk, so I rushed out to take care of her. I let her stay over because she looked like she couldn’t even walk straight. I was planning to let her stay in my bed while I slept on the couch, but she would start whining and crying. She asked me to stay with her, so I sat on the bed. Then she kissed me and told me she loved me. Immediately afterwards, she fell asleep. I’m not sure what happened, but when I asked her if she remembered anything from last night, and she said she didn’t remember. What just happened?

February 9, 2014

Money is tight right now and I’m trying to be as careful with spending as possible. My friends want to go out for lunch/dinner with me and I don’t know how to tell them that I can’t afford to because going out with a couple people per week will add up. I don’t want to turn them down, because they have been asking me and want to see how I am doing. Help!

January 2, 2014

I’m am incoming freshman and I am really scared for the heavy workload and challenging classes. I came from a high school that did not have many resources and did not receive the best education. I am worried that I cannot compare to other students who had the privilege to go to good school and have additional academic support. Do you have any advice for what I can do or how to change this mentality?

January 1, 2014

Me and my best friend like the same guy. He texts me all the time and he told me he liked me. What should I do? Should he and I remain friends until she stops likening him?