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July 27, 2014

How do I get him to stop calling me?
This is an uncomfortable situation. I think the best thing to do is to be very explicit that you do NOT want to be contacted anymore. Don’t sugarcoat anything! Let him know upfront that you are not interested and that you would like him to stop calling. If this persists to the point of making you feel unsafe or uncomfortable, you should talk to the police. –Guest Barista Emily

July 26, 2014

Never been in a relationship before
I have never been in a relationship before, and I wonder if it is because I am too picky. While looking for potential girlfriends, I never seem to find the perfect match: Similar personalities and interests, physical attraction, and reciprocated interest. It always ever seems to be just two at a time. My friends insist I just haven't met the right person. But can I expect to meet such a perfect match or is that just a fairy tale?
Winter break with the folks
I’m dreading going home during the Winter Break. Whenever I’m home my parents treat me like a teenager. They quiz me about where I’m going and even enforce a midnight curfew! What can I do to make my life less miserable during the break?

July 24, 2014

Can We Stay Friends After A Break Up?
I spent most of my college career dating this special girl I met freshman year. She was my best friend and I always thought that no matter what happened between the two of us, we would at least want to be friends. After our relationship ended, that friendship I spent years building disappeared. I want to be friends with her, but I am not sure how to make it work out. Time hasn't helped and we don't even talk anymore. Any advice would be appreciated.

July 23, 2014

RRR Week Reminders
It’s Reading/Review/Recitation (RRR) Week and we’re adding a 4th “R” for relaxation. It's important to focus on studying but don't forget to take breaks. Well-timed breaks will help you stay healthy so you can concentrate and learn more easily when you do hit the books. How do you recharge and refresh? Below are some suggested activities. Have a great RRR+R week!
Should we break up?
I'm a fourth year with a girlfriend. We graduated from the same school and have been together for almost a year and it's going pretty well. We have our similarities, but we do share a few important, but no deal-breaking differences. Anyways, her major is probably the complete opposite of my major so our futures are pretty destined to go in different directions. Long distance is possible, but we realize it probably wouldn't work out. Breaking up is pretty unavoidable. Should we just break it off now or wait?

July 22, 2014

I have a crush on my GSI
The one in question is at least five years older than me and a Ph.D. candidate in a field I'm VERY interested in, but I'm just a lowly undergrad struggling in this GSI's class. I understand (and agree) that taking any action while the student-teacher relationship is going on is unprofessional and bound to lead to sticky situations, but is there anything I can do now to give myself a chance later (other than doing well in the class)?

July 21, 2014

I have a smelly roommate
My roommate goes out partying/drinking and comes back late and just goes to bed without showering or changing and she stinks up the whole room because of it (she goes partying days at a time then wakes up early to go to class so she goes days without showering). Is there a nicer way to say “You stink, please shower at least once a day?”

July 20, 2014

I choose abstinence
I’m a virgin and want to practice abstinence, but I feel like all couples do in college is have sex. How can I find a guy who will love me for what I believe in?

July 19, 2014

Ex-boyfriend just got new girlfriend
I'm showing signs of depression (near-constant sadness, trouble sleeping, increased anxiety, hair loss, loss of interest in activities, etc.) and I can't help but think it's related to his new relationship. It's been over a year since we broke up. Is this normal? And how can I better come to terms with it?

July 18, 2014

I'm shy and having trouble asking someone out
I’m shy and I’m having trouble asking people out. What advice can you give me to ask this cute guy out I like?

July 17, 2014

How do I avoid the "friend zone?"
Is there a window of opportunity to ask a girl on a date before they put you in the friend zone? I’ve never actually been on a date with a girl before, because I want to be friends/talk to them for a while to get to know them a little bit before working up the courage to ask them out. However, they usually end up saying they only think of me as a friend when I ask them eventually. Am I approaching this the right way or should I ask them out before we establish too much of a connection or what?

July 16, 2014

Is it gay if its just one time?
Is it gay if its just one time?

July 15, 2014

Sometimes I cry after sex

Sometimes I cry after sex. Is this normal?

I have talked to people who cry after sex. Some because they feel so emotionally happy and overwhelmed after sex and/or orgasm and the feelings get expressed in tears. A few have cried because they felt guilty about being sexually active. You are not alone in crying after sex. 

July 14, 2014

Struggling in my math class
I've been struggling so much in my math class. I've been to my GSI's office hours, got tutoring from friends, went to tutoring at the EECS honor society, and everything! I am still struggling and I'm afraid I might fail the class because I don't understand what's going on. Every day I walk out of class either tired or in tears.

July 13, 2014

Is this considered a long-term relationship?
My boyfriend and I have been officially dating for almost a year. He goes away for 3 weeks to go on vacation with his family to China. When I saw him right when he came back, I looked through pictures of their trip and his mom told me, “half of China knows who you are because he told everyone that he had a girlfriend who was from Hong Kong.” I feel really flattered and proud to be his girlfriend. Should I take that as a signal that our relationship will go long-term?

July 12, 2014

Gay Hookup Culture
Gay men my age seem to only want to hook up. Why is it that no one wants a relationship these days?

July 11, 2014

I have a crush on my professor!
I have a crush on my professor! What should I do?

July 10, 2014

Annoying roommate
I am extremely annoyed with my roommate. I don’t want to hurt her feelings by telling her all the things I’m annoyed about but I also can’t imagine continuing to live like this. What should I do?

July 9, 2014

Make a long distance relationship work
My first relationship is a long distance one. It’s going to be a year before we’re reunited. We were both raised in completely different environments. I keep telling myself to stop worrying so much and just enjoy it. It’s hard though. How can you develop a relationship over webcam/online chatting?