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August 24, 2014

It is well into the second semester, and as my roommate and I are becoming more comfortable with each other, I am starting to notice things about her that never bothered me before. To be honest, sometimes I become so irritated that it takes all my energy to not blow up at her. What should I do?

August 23, 2014

This is my very last written blog post to you all. I am passing on the torch of being a Love Cafe barista to new, eager writers. This has truly been such an incredible experience and I am so grateful. I thought I found my niche already at UC Berkeley; however, after researching the various organizations that UC Berkeley has to offer, I realized that I have tasted only a sliver of all the amazing opportunities offered at this top university. You can sure bet that I will be signing up for new things during my last few years at UC Berkeley. Now, with only a few days left of summer before we start this chapter in our lives, I thought I would pass on a few words of wisdom to you all.
Scared of the Freshman 15? Tired of eating out all time with your friends? Take them to the Recreational Sports Facility (RSF) located on 2301 Bancroft Way. It is an easy, $10 membership that lasts the entire semester. You get access to all the sports facilities, equipment, and classes. It is awesome!

August 22, 2014

How do my boyfriend and I figure out an acceptable level of PDA? Initially, we had both agreed to not hold hands in public, but recently I'm getting the impression that he wants me to hold his hand/put my arm through his. I don't really want to, though; how do I tell him that I don't like any PDA at all without hurting his feelings?
My boyfriend and I went to a party last week. We were a bit drunk and a mutual friend asked him who he thought the prettiest girl in the room was. Obviously, he was supposed to say me. But then he pointed at this random girl at this party and just smiled. I’m not usually the jealous type and I tried to laugh it off. When I got home, I cried the whole night. I’m not sure why it’s bothering me so much. He apologized to me the next day, explaining how drunk he was. And it’s understandable, perfectly understandable. Yet, the feeling isn’t going away. Why?
It is essential that you have a meal plan when going into the dorms. Yes, there is a communal kitchen located in each building; however, I guarantee you that it will not replace the dining commons.

August 20, 2014

One of my best friends and I like the same guy. What should we do?
I am currently going through a break-up and it hurts so much. The relationship that I had was extremely confusing. We were on and off for about half a year! He was my best friend before we had started talking. We ended our relationship on good terms but many times I miss him terribly and become quite depressed. I understand why we had to break up but its hurts to let our memories go.

August 19, 2014

I've recently started seeing a guy (this is the first relationship I've ever been in), and I was wondering: when (or even if) should I tell my parents about him? I'm afraid they might not approve of him, or they might start asking uncomfortable questions. But at the same time I don't want to be keeping things from them; this relationship is something I'm really excited and happy about.

August 18, 2014

Sometimes I get really stressed out because I feel like everybody here is a lot smarter than me. I don't feel like I deserve to be at Berkeley, no matter how much my friends try to reassure me. What do I do?

August 17, 2014

After getting over Guy A a few months ago, I started having feelings for Guy B. I told B my feelings for him only to find out A and B have a semicasual relationship going on right now. I feel really hurt especially knowing that B would rather have a friends-with-benefits relationship with A, than have a genuine romantic relationship with me. Have any advice on how to get over this? They are both good friends and I don't want to lose my friendship with them, but it's honestly hard to see them now


My boyfriend and I have a wonderful, fun, and caring relationship, but whenever we get into fights he completely shuts down, doesn't reach out, and can be really narrow-minded about hearing my perspective. I've talked to him about how I feel and he reacted well, but is there any way to facilitate communication if we have another argument? Thanks!

August 15, 2014

I love my boyfriend. But besides school work and work, we don’t really have much in common. We don’t know what to talk about. I feel as if we’re still friends. Is this normal?

August 13, 2014

I recently entered a relationship with a guy who's not a virgin. I am, and plan to be until marriage. He knows this and says he's ok with it but also says that it's difficult for guys to control their sexual desires. We've never reached a concrete resolution to this problem, but I would love some insight on how or if you think this could still work...
There is a really charming guy at a cafe that I go to, I've seen him several times. I don't know how to start a conversation! And a lot of times, he has a few other peoples with him.

August 11, 2014

I'm a virgin and my boyfriend of five months isn't. I recently have been hearing about him talking to mutual friends about his sexual past, and it bothers me to hear about it. Should I ask him to tell me everything? Is it a good idea for me to be kept blind about his sexual history?

August 10, 2014

I’ve been dating this guy for 2 months now and things are going well but every time I bring up the subject of finally becoming “official”, he would change topics or look so uncomfortable that I just end up saying nevermind. I’m getting really frustrated now but I don’t know what say without sounding desperate/needy. How should I approach him about this?

August 8, 2014

I always seem to be disappointed with my boyfriend. He says he cares about me and misses me whenever we’re apart but his actions show otherwise, such as canceling on dates, and setting a time limit on how much we should spend time together since he’s so busy with school. And whenever we’re together, we’re usually doing something he wants, especially having sex. Sometimes I really feel that he does care about me but am I being delusional and is he just lying?


August 7, 2014

My roommate constantly lets her boyfriend sleepover so I’m always getting sexiled overnight (so it’s the couch for me…). I’ve already told her that I don’t like him staying over so much but she always comes up with excuses as to why he had to. I don’t want to fight with her over such a petty issue but I can’t take it anymore, help!

August 6, 2014

If I’m a shy person, but I have my eye on snagging a Valentine, what are some ways I can go about either being a secret admirer or just straight forward with this person?