I have a lot of image issues. This year, it just got worse since I started college and was stressed and kept eating. I put on a lot of weight and now that I’m home for the summer, my family can’t stop talking about it. It stresses me out and just puts me in a bad downward spiral. Help?
August 31, 2014
My friends and I went to a concert but someone in our group got carried away with substance use. It’s because we care about his safety that we told him he couldn’t come with us to future outings unless he learns to control himself. He got offended and thinks we’re punishing him, and it’s frustrating. What should we do?
August 30, 2014
I’m starting to feel like I’m not owning up to my mistakes. I constantly regret it when things go wrong and my expectations fall apart. What should I do?
I’ve been feeling a lot of pressure from my peers and from myself lately about finding research opportunities. I’m losing sleep, and I feel guilty taking breaks and naps. It’s almost as if I’m not human when I’m so anxious and busy all the time. I even turn down invitations to go out with friends because my schedule is so packed and it feels terrible. I’m trying to change that, but it’s very difficult. And what if I don’t find one that fits my interest or what if it isn’t one of the better ones?
August 29, 2014
Valentines day is coming up and yet again, I don’t have someone special to spend it with. All my friends have significant others and I feel kind of bummed out by this. What can I do during that weekend?
August 28, 2014
I have a big exam in a couple days, but there’s a really rad concert I want to go to that’s the night before. I always studied hard in high school, but now that I’m in college, I just want to have fun. What should I do?
August 27, 2014
I’m a shy guy. How do I make friends at Cal?
August 26, 2014
I am having trouble with my family. My dad and my mom fight all the time. Most often, I side with my mom with their arguments and understand her reasoning. Although I love my father, he is extremely stubborn and does not want to listen or change his ways. I really do no know how to help the situation.
August 25, 2014
My boyfriend is graduating from Berkeley, and will be moving. We talked about this and we are both willing to pursue a long-distance relationship. What are some strategies we can utilize for maintaining a healthy long distance relationship?
August 24, 2014
It is well into the second semester, and as my roommate and I are becoming more comfortable with each other, I am starting to notice things about her that never bothered me before. To be honest, sometimes I become so irritated that it takes all my energy to not blow up at her. What should I do?
August 23, 2014
This is my very last written blog post to you all. I am passing on the torch of being a Love Cafe barista to new, eager writers. This has truly been such an incredible experience and I am so grateful. I thought I found my niche already at UC Berkeley; however, after researching the various organizations that UC Berkeley has to offer, I realized that I have tasted only a sliver of all the amazing opportunities offered at this top university. You can sure bet that I will be signing up for new things during my last few years at UC Berkeley. Now, with only a few days left of summer before we start this chapter in our lives, I thought I would pass on a few words of wisdom to you all.
Scared of the Freshman 15? Tired of eating out all time with your friends? Take them to the Recreational Sports Facility (RSF) located on 2301 Bancroft Way. It is an easy, $10 membership that lasts the entire semester. You get access to all the sports facilities, equipment, and classes. It is awesome!
August 22, 2014
How do my boyfriend and I figure out an acceptable level of PDA? Initially, we had both agreed to not hold hands in public, but recently I'm getting the impression that he wants me to hold his hand/put my arm through his. I don't really want to, though; how do I tell him that I don't like any PDA at all without hurting his feelings?
It is essential that you have a meal plan when going into the dorms. Yes, there is a communal kitchen located in each building; however, I guarantee you that it will not replace the dining commons.
My boyfriend and I went to a party last week. We were a bit drunk and a mutual friend asked him who he thought the prettiest girl in the room was. Obviously, he was supposed to say me. But then he pointed at this random girl at this party and just smiled. I’m not usually the jealous type and I tried to laugh it off. When I got home, I cried the whole night. I’m not sure why it’s bothering me so much. He apologized to me the next day, explaining how drunk he was. And it’s understandable, perfectly understandable. Yet, the feeling isn’t going away. Why?
August 20, 2014
One of my best friends and I like the same guy. What should we do?
I am currently going through a break-up and it hurts so much. The relationship that I had was extremely confusing. We were on and off for about half a year! He was my best friend before we had started talking. We ended our relationship on good terms but many times I miss him terribly and become quite depressed. I understand why we had to break up but its hurts to let our memories go.
August 19, 2014
I've recently started seeing a guy (this is the first relationship I've ever been in), and I was wondering: when (or even if) should I tell my parents about him? I'm afraid they might not approve of him, or they might start asking uncomfortable questions. But at the same time I don't want to be keeping things from them; this relationship is something I'm really excited and happy about.
August 18, 2014
Sometimes I get really stressed out because I feel like everybody here is a lot smarter than me. I don't feel like I deserve to be at Berkeley, no matter how much my friends try to reassure me. What do I do?
August 17, 2014
My boyfriend and I have a wonderful, fun, and caring relationship, but whenever we get into fights he completely shuts down, doesn't reach out, and can be really narrow-minded about hearing my perspective. I've talked to him about how I feel and he reacted well, but is there any way to facilitate communication if we have another argument? Thanks!