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July 27, 2014

I have been had a crush on a good friend for a few months. He recently ended a long-term relationship, and about a month later I asked him out, to which he seemed really flattered and said he'd think about. A couple weeks later, he said he didn't think of me that way and it didn't seem like a good idea. More recently though, he seems really flirty and seems like he is now crushing on me. Should I try again, or would it seem desperate? Is the "ball in his court?"
This is a really uncomfortable situation. I think the best thing to do is to be very explicit that you do NOT want to be contacted anymore…don’t sugar coat anything! Let him know upfront that you are not interested and that you would like him to stop calling. If this persists to the point of it making you feel unsafe or uncomfortable, you should definitely talk to the police. –Guest Barista Emily

July 26, 2014

I have never been in a relationship before, and I wonder if it is because I am too picky in looking for partners. While looking for potential girlfriends, I never seem to get the 'perfect storm': Similarities in personalities and interests, physical attraction, and reciprocated interest. It always ever seems to be just two at a time. My friends insist I just haven't met the 'right person'... But can I honestly expect to meet such a 'perfect storm' person, or is that just a fairy tale?
I’m dreading going home during the Winter Break. Whenever I’m home my parents treat me like a teenager. They quiz me about where I’m going and even enforce a midnight curfew! What can I do to make my life less miserable during the break?

July 24, 2014

I spent most of my college career dating this special girl I met freshmen year. She was my bestfriend and I always thought that no matter what happened between the two of us, we would at least want to be friends. After our relationship ended, that friendship I spent years building disappeared. I want to be friends with her, but I am not sure how to make it work out. Time hasn't helped and I we don't even talk anymore. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

July 23, 2014

It’s Reading/Review/Recitation (RRR) Week. But don’t just go to the library…take some breaks with friends. We’re adding a 4th “R” for relaxation. Obviously this is not the time to take days off for relaxation :-) But well timed breaks with friends will help you stay healthy— so you can concentrate and learn more easily when you do hit the books. Have a great RRRR week!
I'm a fourth year with a girlfriend, whose graduated from the same school, of almost a year and it's going pretty good. We have our similarities, but we do share a few important, but no deal-breaking differences. Anyways, her major is probably the complete opposite of my major so our futures are pretty destined to go in different directions. Long distance is possible, but we realize it probably wouldn't work out. Breaking up is pretty unavoidable. Should we just break it off now or wait?

July 22, 2014

The one in question is at least five years older than me and a Ph.D. candidate in a field I'm VERY interested in, but I'm just a lowly undergrad struggling in this GSI's class. I understand (and agree) that taking any action while the student-teacher relationship is going on is unprofessional and bound to lead to sticky situations, but is there anything I can do now to give myself a chance later (other than doing well in the class)?

July 21, 2014

My roommate goes out partying/drinking and comes back late and just goes to bed without showering or changing and she stinks up the whole room because of it (she goes partying days at a time then wakes up early to go to class so she goes days without showering). Is there a nicer way to say “you stink, please shower at least once a day?”

July 20, 2014

I’m a virgin and want to practice abstinence, but I feel like all couples do in college is have sex. How can I find a guy who will love me for what I believe in?

July 19, 2014

I'm showing signs of depression (near constant sadness, trouble sleeping, increased anxiety, hair loss, loss of interest in activities, etc.) and I can't help but think it's related to his new relationship. It's been over a year since we broke up. Is this normal? And how can I better come to terms with it?

July 18, 2014

I’m shy and I’m having trouble asking people out. What advice can you give me to ask this cute guy out I really like?

July 17, 2014

Is there a window of opportunity to ask a girl on a date before they put you in the friend zone? I’ve never actually been on a date with a girl before, because I want to be friends/talk to them for a while to get to know them a little bit before working up the courage to ask them out. However, they usually end up saying they only think of me as a friend when I ask them eventually. Am I approaching this the right way or should I ask them out before we establish too much of a connection or what?

July 16, 2014

Is it gay if its just one time?

July 15, 2014

Sometimes I cry after sex. Is this normal?


I have talked to people who cry after sex; some because they feel so emotionally happy and overwhelmed after sex and/or orgasm and the feelings get expressed in tears. A few have cried because they felt guilty about being sexually active.

You are definitely not alone in crying after sex.

July 14, 2014

I've been struggling so much in my math class. I've been to my GSI's office hours, got tutoring from friends, went to tutoring at the EECS honor society and everything! I am still struggling and I'm afraid I might fail the class because I really don't understand what's going on. Everyday I walk out of class either tired or in tears..
I've been struggling so much in my math class. I've been to my GSI's office hours, got tutoring from friends, went to tutoring at the EECS honor society and everything! I am still struggling and I'm afraid I might fail the class because I really don't understand what's going on. Everyday I walk out of class either tired or in tears..

July 13, 2014

My boyfriend and I have been officially dating for almost a year. He goes away for 3 weeks to go on vacation with his family to China. When I saw him right when he came back, I looked through pictures of their trip and his mom told me, “half of China knows who you are because he told everyone that he had a girlfriend who was from Hong Kong.” I feel really flattered and proud to be his girlfriend. Should I take that as a signal that our relationship will go long-term?

July 12, 2014

Gay men my age seem to only want to hook up. Why is it that no one wants a relationship these days?

July 11, 2014

I have a crush on my professor what should I do?