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July 20, 2014

I’m a virgin and want to practice abstinence, but I feel like all couples do in college is have sex. How can I find a guy who will love me for what I believe in?

July 19, 2014

I'm showing signs of depression (near constant sadness, trouble sleeping, increased anxiety, hair loss, loss of interest in activities, etc.) and I can't help but think it's related to his new relationship. It's been over a year since we broke up. Is this normal? And how can I better come to terms with it?

July 18, 2014

I’m shy and I’m having trouble asking people out. What advice can you give me to ask this cute guy out I really like?

July 17, 2014

Is there a window of opportunity to ask a girl on a date before they put you in the friend zone? I’ve never actually been on a date with a girl before, because I want to be friends/talk to them for a while to get to know them a little bit before working up the courage to ask them out. However, they usually end up saying they only think of me as a friend when I ask them eventually. Am I approaching this the right way or should I ask them out before we establish too much of a connection or what?

July 16, 2014

Is it gay if its just one time?

July 15, 2014

Sometimes I cry after sex. Is this normal?


I have talked to people who cry after sex; some because they feel so emotionally happy and overwhelmed after sex and/or orgasm and the feelings get expressed in tears. A few have cried because they felt guilty about being sexually active.

You are definitely not alone in crying after sex.

July 14, 2014

I've been struggling so much in my math class. I've been to my GSI's office hours, got tutoring from friends, went to tutoring at the EECS honor society and everything! I am still struggling and I'm afraid I might fail the class because I really don't understand what's going on. Everyday I walk out of class either tired or in tears..
I've been struggling so much in my math class. I've been to my GSI's office hours, got tutoring from friends, went to tutoring at the EECS honor society and everything! I am still struggling and I'm afraid I might fail the class because I really don't understand what's going on. Everyday I walk out of class either tired or in tears..

July 13, 2014

My boyfriend and I have been officially dating for almost a year. He goes away for 3 weeks to go on vacation with his family to China. When I saw him right when he came back, I looked through pictures of their trip and his mom told me, “half of China knows who you are because he told everyone that he had a girlfriend who was from Hong Kong.” I feel really flattered and proud to be his girlfriend. Should I take that as a signal that our relationship will go long-term?

July 12, 2014

Gay men my age seem to only want to hook up. Why is it that no one wants a relationship these days?

July 11, 2014

I have a crush on my professor what should I do?

July 10, 2014

I am extremely annoyed with my roommate. I don’t want to hurt her feelings by telling her all the things I’m annoyed about but I also can’t imagine continuing to live like this. What should I do?

July 9, 2014

My first relationship is a long distance one. It’s going to be a year before we’re reunited. We were both raised in completely different environments. I keep telling myself to stop worrying so much and just enjoy it. It’s hard though. How can you develop a relationship over webcam/online chatting?

July 8, 2014

I cheated on my boyfriend of a couple of years over the summer. It wasn’t intentional but it happened, and I finally told him recently, because I figured if I really cared about him, I owe him the truth and should let him decide where to take things from here. But I feel so alone without him, because he was my best friend. Did I do the right thing? Should I just have not told him and kept going?

July 7, 2014

Our friend Tiff is a Cal sophomore, and she has these tips for you after having navigated her first year on campus.

July 6, 2014

I am bisexual and finally happy that I can admit it. But I am worried about myself because I have never had a partner. I have never even kissed or dated someone. Everytime school is on a break and I go home, everyone asks me if I have found someone. It makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me. I do want to find that person, but I’m also embarrassed about my lack of experience and just feel like I need to vent about it.

July 5, 2014

I’ve broken up with my long-term boyfriend recently, but we can’t stop talking since the break up. I made it clear to him that I just wanted a casual/physical relationship (no labels), nothing serious. He was completely fine with it when we agreed. While casually seeing him, I was also fooling around with other guys. When I told him about it, he seemed heartbroken. I don’t want to hurt his feelings but I also understand that we agreed on having just a casual relationship. Any suggestions?

July 4, 2014

I have become pretty good friends with one of my guy friends. Unfortunately, as I got to know him better, I liked him more as more than a friend. I’m too afraid to say anything about it to him because I think it will make things weird and I’m afraid to lose the friendship. It has also been previously awkward between us because we’ve made out and such at parties and I’m just glad that the awkward stage is over. But now I’m not sure what to do if I like him as more than a friend.

July 3, 2014

My roommate and I have been living together since our freshman year in the dorms. I’ll admit, he’s a little unmotivated, nice looking guy who is constantly under the influence of something. I, myself, am a bit opposite, but we get along great - I am pre-med, constantly studying and/or doing research. My question is this: does physical attraction/physique increase the chances of being hired? Like hot bartenders at a high-end nightclub…

July 2, 2014

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months now, and I know I’m being silly but I’m hurt he’s never had a picture of the two of us as a Facebook profile picture! He’s had pictures of him with other girls, but never me! I don’t want to seem immature and superficial by bringing it up, but seriously, but the deal?