Love Cafe

I'm on campus during Thanksgiving - what can I do?

November 18, 2016
I’m going to be around campus for the Thanksgiving holiday. This is my first year at Cal and away from home. What should I expect? What is there to do?

I'm in a relationship, but I'm interested in seeing other people

December 9, 2016
My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost 3 years and even though I really care about him, I think I’m interested in seeing other people. He’s great but I’m starting to wonder what I may be missing out on. Any advice?

The semester just started and I'm already falling behind

September 9, 2016
The semester just started and I’m already worried that I’m going to fall behind in classes. Its super easy for me to get distracted so procrastination is becoming a problem. I’ve downloaded an app that blocks me from sites that I get sucked into like FB or Reddit but it’s not enough. Advice- please!

How do I face my conservative family?

April 29, 2016
I shaved the sides of my hair this semester (I’m a girl) and am nervous about my conservative family and community because I don’t know how they will react. I can always buy a wig (?) but want to practice being more confident while sporting my new do. Any advice for helping me prepare to handle the inevitable criticism? I love my family but know that we hold very different views. Is there anyway to reach a middle ground?

How can I support my roommate during stressful times?

June 4, 2016
I have had the same roommate for two years and consider her a good friend of mine. I know this semester has been hectic, but my roommate tends to use this as an excuse for snapping on me. She does this to other people as well, ‘Ive noticed. Should I say something to her? Or Ignore it. What are ways I can be supportive of her through really stressful times?

I like this guy but I can't tell if he likes me back. Should I make a move?

April 1, 2016
So I haven’t dated in while and I think I might be interested in this guy I just met in my organization. Problem is I think I’m too scared of something because I feel like I have been rejecting myself. Telling myself if he had found me attractive he would have already approached me. I feel like I’m such a fool because I haven’t really tried talking to him. Maybe I’m being too hard on myself but I would really like to know the guy a bit more where do I start?

Dating at Berkeley

March 25, 2016
Hi, this is my first semester at Cal as a transfer student and I have only gone on 1 date so far. I realized that balancing life here at Cal is not an easy task, given the academic rigor here is quite real. I was just wondering how I can get more dates while spending my time here at Cal. Thanks!​

Q&A: Friendships

September 8, 2014
I have a friend who has a overly controlling and jealous boyfriend. What is the best approach for this situation if the girl knows the situation she is in but feels she cannot talk to him about it?

Q&A: Relationships and Dating

August 29, 2014
Valentines day is coming up and yet again, I don’t have someone special to spend it with. All my friends have significant others and I feel kind of bummed out by this. What can I do during that weekend?

Q&A: Family

August 26, 2014
I am having trouble with my family. My dad and my mom fight all the time. Most often, I side with my mom with their arguments and understand her reasoning. Although I love my father, he is extremely stubborn and does not want to listen or change his ways. I really do no know how to help the situation.